Break-ups suck! No matter what age, or how much experience you have had with losing loved ones, saying goodbye is never easy.
There are a million and one films that show the ugly side of heartache, and yet, a type of break-up that is very rarely shown is that of the friendship break-up. Friends are the ones in films who pick up the main character when they go through a break-up. Friends are powerful forces who are often portrayed as platonic soulmates. Look at the evidence: Thelma and Louise drove off a cliff together. There is a whole TV show dedicated to six tight-knit friends living in New York. And another set in the very same city, where four female friends experience love and loss together. The one thing that never changes? Their friendship. So how are we supposed to navigate this often unspoken of and in many cases, just as painful experience when it happens in our own lives?
When a friendship comes to an end, abruptly or not, it can feel like a huge part of your life has just gone. The go-to person/people who have been with you through the highs and the lows are no longer beside you. You see a funny meme, and know your friend would love it, but as you go to send you realise that they are just a name on your screen. Someone that you used to share so much of your life with is no longer there to talk to you when you’re feeling low or have exciting news to tell. You can walk past each other in the street and not even say a word to each other like complete strangers. We know, and we completely understand how it feels!
Whether the friendship ended on bad terms because it became toxic or you just hit the end of your journey together, going through this experience can feel confusing and lonely. But what can you do to make it easier? Well, first realise that you are not alone. There are people around you to support you. A partner, family, other friends, will be there for you when you need them the most. If the friendship ended due to the relationship becoming toxic, realise that you are better off without that person or people in your life. You might not feel that way at the start, but over time you will know that you deserve better. The saying, time heals all wounds is as cliche as they come but there is truth in it. Allow yourself to feel it all. Some days will feel sad, and that’s okay.
Some other tips from team Cohorted to you. Because we’ve all been through it at some stage in our lives too:
Do something you love and strictly for yourself. If you like to run, read, or love to take long baths with a face mask and a glass of wine, then do it. Taking the time out to care for yourself, can help to boost your mood and make you feel better. The key is to do something that you love.
It could be a creative hobby turned into a side hustle or maybe a project that will transform your home into your dream space. Having a project on the go is a sure-fire way to give you something to focus on and most importantly, have fun with.
Just like a romantic break-up, when you feel like the time is right again, get back out there. Invite a colleague out for lunch and get to know them better, you never know, you might find that you have a lot in common. You could also join a class or club and meet like-minded souls that’ll also want to go out for that bottomless brunch with you. There are even networking apps now to help you make new friends. Why not give Bumble BFF a go?