How many of us truly know the meaning of self-love or how to cultivate it into our lives? I am only just recognising in my 30s, how truly important self-love is.
I have only recently discovered my own need for this practice, realising that this is something that has been missing my whole life. It is such a beautiful thing once you realise and start to practice it; The difference it makes alone is something quite spectacular, but you first have to recognise its absence and learn from scratch how to introduce it into your everyday life.
What is self-love?
Self-love is a choice, an action; It’s not just something we can switch on and off whenever we feel like it. Learning how to love yourself is an action we must take in our lives, in order for us to fully flourish and grow. When you become one with yourself and start understanding yourself on a deeper level, magic can happen.
It’s about being kind to yourself, allowing yourself to make mistakes and learning and accepting those, using them to grow. Learn how to forgive yourself and not hold self-grudges or be too hard or self-critical on yourself.
This is something I still struggle with to this day, but embarking on the journey of self-love has been the most rewarding thing I could ever have done for myself. My soul already feels so elevated and free, and I am now looking at life and myself through a new set of eyes.
One of the things I learnt was to treat myself the same way I would treat somebody that I cared about. What advice would we give to someone we cared about? How would we treat them? For some reason, the majority of us tend to treat others with such love and compassion but when it comes to ourselves, we do the complete opposite.
It doesn’t make sense; We must hold ourselves in the same regard we hold others and I have found that this is the perfect place to start to teach yourself about self-love and compassion. We need to respect ourselves, our bodies and our minds.
When you begin to project this into your life, things automatically begin to change. Who you have around you in your circle, the types of people you attract – it influences every aspect of your life but specifically how we treat others and how we let others treat us and how we treat ourselves. It’s important to remember that we can’t control or stop problems from happening, but we can control how we react and deal with them and it is this that defines us as people.
A lack of self-love is something that can develop either throughout our childhood or as we approach adult hood. They key is to recognise what is missing and then start from there.
- Learn about your emotions and feelings.
- Why are you feeling this way?
- Where is the feeling coming from?
- What can you do to make things easier for yourself?
Accept those feelings and work on them without judgement.
This is the most rewarding thing a person can do for themselves. You will have a much more fulfilled life if you practice self-love on a regular basis. Self-love isn’t restricted to anything specific and can involve exercise, food, skincare, reading, meditating, dancing, anything that makes YOU feel good.
Now that I recognise it, I feel like I have done myself a lifetime of injustice not finding it sooner; The journey of self-love is truly the best feeling and I am enjoying every minute of it. I love learning and understanding myself on a deeper level, I feel so much happier and much more positive than before. I am learning to love myself and treat myself with such kindness and it makes such a huge difference to everyday life.
Research studies have shown that people who practice self-love have…
• Less anxiety
• Better recovery from stress
• A much more positive outlook on life
• Better adherence to healthier behaviour changes
• Feel a lot more optimistic
If you are lacking some self-love, be sure to introduce this practice into your life; I guarantee your life will change before your eyes. Some may get there faster than others as self-love is an individual journey and each is entirely different.
Become the best version of yourself that you can possibly be. We only get one life, do not sell yourself short. Recognise your greatness and bring it into fruition. Self-love is a beautiful thing and is vital to your wellbeing. Start this amazing journey today, you are so important and so worth the time.
The more you learn to love yourself, the better you will become for others. Invest in yourself, I promise you won’t regret it.